Thursday, June 3, 2010

So tired of updating docs

One bit of good news, we can use the updated homestudy we did in November for Russia as that homestudy expires this month. That was just confirmed so that saves some time, money, and stress. I'm getting conflicting information as to whether or not any judges in Vladivostok are setting new courts dates without a treaty being signed yet.....some are saying no all the way around & I've heard just no court dates for single mothers but others are getting set, just very slowly and cautiously (not sure how they could be much more cautious with all the paperwork we've had to provide already, but I have no doubt that even more can be required!) I know our agency is having us do another online course on basically disciplining an adopted child called "Ain't Misbahavin". I'm totally fine with that and think it will be helpful. I just wish I knew if we had any chance of getting a court date set before a treaty is signed, or if we are simply at the mercy of two governments. I know things are moving along fairly rapidly as far as the treaty goes, but you never know. I wish I had a guarantee that it will be signed this month, but of course there's no guarantees. It could be the fall.

So we continue to wait and I continue to stock blogs, chat boards, groups, and my email for any signs that we are moving forward. Now, I guess I also get to start working on updating all the dossier docs we did right when we got back from trip #1 in case we don't get a court date next month. Mainly, I'm just dreading redoing the psych report and the MMPI test. Wish us luck that perhaps the psychologist will work with us and make updating his report not quite so painful, time consuming, and of course expensive.

As always, I just keep our little miss in my thoughts and can only pray she is being taken care of. I know she needs to be home with us and getting the love and nourishment that only a family can provide. Love you baby girl!!!

10 comments:

Jeanette said...

I know a family near me that is adopting from Vlad and waiting for a court date. Just a couple of days ago she told me that things are moving along and only running about 3 weeks behind schedule (as per her agency, I think). Good sign!

Shelly and Steve said...

Thanks for sharing that Jeanette!! That is a good sign....I'm looking for any good sign I can see :o) Maybe a court date can happen in July!!!

Tracey and Chuck said...

Shelly,
I know of a family that was in Vlad with us on their 1st trip in early Feb (when we were on our 2nd) and they just went to court on May 31 (this past monday) so if that is anything it looks to me like they are setting court dates. They said court was not easy but in the end the answer was "Yes" and they will be returning to Vlad mid next week to bring their little girl home!!! As usually, keeping our fingers crossed and hoping good news comes your way very very soon!

Carala said...

I'm with ya on DEDOING DODUMENTS...it's the story of our lives too! Everything is expiring...and it's exhausting us. I just have to focus on our trip in 2 1/2 weeks...that's the only thing that is keeping me going!!!!!!! I thought we were done redoing documents...and then we were told about another one today....and who knows what we're going to do. I'm just so tired...and I'm sure you are too! we can do this though!!! We just have to keep holding on!

Your in my thoughts and prayers!
Carala from Canada

nick and cathy said...

just wanting to let you know that we are praying for you. Plan for the worst and hope for the best; that is the best advice we can give for Russian adoptions. We brought our daughter home in 2006 after 15 months of delays due to reaccrediation issues. Know in your heart that things will work out and that you will be bringing home your daughter soon....just not as soo as you planned.

Maggie and Randy said...

I hope you get your court day soon. Here I am complaining and dreading the paperwork expiring and you have waited for so long. You have tremendous strength Shelly. When I read your blog you give me such hope because your not giving up you inspire my husband and I not to give up. When my husband complains I always mention how long you have been waiting and that puts perspective on things. I hope you get your court date before I get my first travel dates.....you deserve. Sending hugs!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

My husband does psych evals for Russian adoptions for an agency in our city and he does not make the people re-take the MMPI. I think the results are considered valid for awhile, so that is one thing you won't have to redo. He only charges $30.00 to do an update, because it is all in his computer, and he just changes a few things. (Of course, he is VERY sensitive because we went through the horrible process ourselves only 24 months ago!) :) Best of luck -

Victoria

Nicole said...

Just focus on your baby girl and you will get through this!
I can not wait to see this baby in your arms ...where she belongs!
Stay focused and strong you are almost there!
Nicole

GuinnessandKillian said...

You and Little Miss are in my thoughts every second and if I could make something happen I so would, in an instant.

Michele said...

Not much to add except there are alot of us who totally understand what you are going through. I hope your little miss is home soon.